Ruby and Pam are getting married today.
Hitched, united, tied, coupled, bound, wedded and joined in Holy Matrimony. It makes me happy just to think about it, which is odd, because I’ll be the first to admit, I’ve always taken marriage for granted.
Don’t get me wrong. Amy is the best thing that ever happened to me and I’d be a very lost soul without her. But I’ve never been sure that we actually needed the marriage.
You see, I have a great relationship with my heart. It speaks the truth very clearly and I, for the most part, listen. Shortly after meeting Amy it grabbed me by the front of the shirt and insisted, in no uncertain terms, that I would be an idiot to let her go. Luckily, she agreed, and we’ve been together ever since. I’ve never been sure we needed anything more than that.
And yet, and yet…Our wedding was one of the most joyous moments of my life.
Maybe that’s why I’m so happy. For I know few people who more richly deserve such a moment than Ruby and Pam. After more than a decade of building a life together, of raising a son, of doing good work and being great friends, they are what a marriage should be. And now they have traveled half way across the country to honor that commitment.
So in away, it matters little that they’ll be returning to a state which, like a child who closes his eyes against something he doesn’t wish to see, will refuse to recognize their union. The union exists. It always has. And the joy of this day will be theirs forever. No willful blindness can ever take that away.
So that’s why I’m happy.
Ruby and Pam are getting married today.
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Todd, you write so beautifully.
This is so lovely; it did my heart good!